It should get sweeter as you both age together. That's how marriage is designed. It should start very sweet and go on being sweeter each day. And I mean each day, through old age and all that, until death do you part. That doesn't mean love ends during death, because it continues in the hereafter. Nope, there's no marriage anymore in heaven, but love and sweetness go on there.
Photo above by Harli Marten on Unsplash.
And anyway, who says you need to re-marry in heaven when you're already a couple?
When something grows, it's alive and it progresses to something better, by the day. Right? Anything that has life in it behaves that way. Even if a plant dies eventually, it's fruits have seeds to make it go on multiple times. Jesus said, "...but when (the seed) dies it produces many seeds." It continues. Yes, meroong forever. 😉
Dates Get Sweeter
Dates should increase and intensify in sweetness during marriage more than in courtship or engagement or in between. I'm speaking from experience. I and my wife still date at our age and get more excited each time. And I mean each time. It's not some theory or idea or wish, it's what we have each day since June of 1995.
And we don't need anything fancy to have a good time. Kahit Paotsin siomai or Yowell frozen yogurt with lots of blueberries (Php 50 per cup) plus a cup of gulaman lang yan, it's already a special date for us. Or enjoying food at Savory Classic restaurant now and then, pag me time. Sometimes we try junk foods like the giant Purefoods hotdog sandwich at the grocery area of Waltermart in Munoz.
Minsan lang naman 😁.
I still have a big crush on her! I still see her as a wonderful lady who never fails to amaze me and keeps me in love like a silly teenager. It still gives me pleasure to make her laugh, appreciate all she does, and concoct for her the best mug of coffee in the world each morning.
Extreme Intimacy
Intimacy in marriage should get more extreme as you age together. It's bible truth--the two shall become one flesh. ONE FLESH! When God said this HE wasn't joking. I become my wife and she becomes me. Your unique personalities remain intact but you become one. Most importantly, you have one spirit and soul.
When God looks at you, HE sees one person, one flesh. It won't do like what other married couples have when they try to avoid each other's company as they age. They have separate hangouts and companions and just see each other a short moment at home when they're already tired and sleepy. Sometimes, they don't even share the same room or bed.
It's just like what Jesus and HIS true church have. They're one flesh. Jesus is in them and they're in Christ. It's no longer they who live but Christ lives in them. Intimacy and sweetness should increase as the church is one flesh with Jesus through the years--in ever-increasing glory or from glory to glory. Thus, church gets more excited and in love with Jesus like a silly teenager, younger and sillier in love as the teenager matures.
It's not the programs or activities that make people faithfully go to church---not the worship service or worship team or the top-of-the-line musical instruments or good sound system or good preaching. You can take them all away and true believers will still go to church ecstatic to worship Jesus together with gusto even over some cheap siomai or squid balls and gulaman to share with.
It's because they know they're married to Jesus in spirit and are one flesh with HIM.
So, what's the secret to getting sweeter with your spouse even in old age? Together as one flesh, nurture a sweeter and more intimate relationship with Jesus as you age. Get more in love with HIM like a silly teenager. And this is not of works or your own effort. It's by HIS grace and mercy, if you grab the grace and mercy with all excitement each moment of your lives.
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